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Originally posted by Dragon Curve
So stop wasting your time chasing him up, get another job and support your family yourself. I know plenty of single mothers who don't receive child support payments and are surviving.
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Who said I was chasing him up? We haven't heard from him in over a year, and that's fine with me. And my family is being supported just fine -- ya'll misunderstood me, for one thing. I'm not a single mother, I've been remarried for going on 5 years, and the only reason I could think of to get in touch with my ex is to ask him to sign the paperwork to allow my husband to formally adopt my daughter.
My 2nd husband is the one who has helped me raise this child -- we both worked two jobs while we were going through college to keep food on the table, my husband used to change diapers, feed her, he does all the "Daddy" stuff happily, because he's happy to be a family man. My ex doesn't have it in him -- and didn't have it in him, even when he was married to me after the baby was born -- to be any kind of responsible parent, and I'm just as happy to let him keep himself out of her life.
And that's what he's doing, really. He knows where we live, he has my phone number -- if he isn't seeing her, it's his choice. I never kept him from exercising his visitation, even though I personally think he's a childish fuckstick who is one of the biggest mistakes I ever made. I don't really regret it, though -- I got my daughter out of it, and it was one hell of a learning experience. I learned to take care of myself and not to rely on anyone else. I married again because I loved him, not because I "needed a man."
Bleh...I'll quit rambling now. It's almost time for the schoolbus, and I have to wake the hubby up from his nap -- he and the kiddo are going to the movies so I can get some site work done.
