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Here's an interesting note on the subject ....from a wife's perspective:

One thing that people may not realise is that often the mother doesn't know that the man isn't the father until the paternity test is done. She may not be duping anyone, for example:




Man A and Woman A live together, they don't use condoms anymore, woman not on the pill, say contraception of choice is diaphragm. In the natural course of relationship diaphragm has been forgotten at various times. Woman has sex one night with a stranger, uses a condom. Some time later realises she's pregnant.


Does it seem unreasonable to assume that the person who got her pregnant is the one she has sex with a lot, rather than the person she had sex with once, and used a condom? A lot of men and women commit adultery while still loving their partners (in fact there is a lot to be said for the argument that monogamy isn't natural). Yes relationships often break up over it, but that is usually not the intention when the deed happens.

You probably also have a case of wishful thinking at times, as in the woman refusing to contemplate that the baby could be anyone else's but her partner.

If the woman remarries, and is a financially secure position, I see no reason why the father should be paying child support if he agrees to also give up all his rights towards the child (visits etc). I think that could apply whether or not the man was the biological father.

In the case of casual relationships - get a paternity test as soon as she announces she's pregnant.