What if you found out your girl got gangbanged?

[blackmonsters]

Originally Posted by AmeliaG

What does Christianity have to do with marriage in America in 2014 or anything in this thread?

Well, like I asked him; "do you say your vows before a priest, minister or pastor?"
That would imply something about Christianity wouldn't it?

If he is getting married by a Rabbi then just replace Christian with Jewish above.
It still means the same thing.

You're getting hung up on religion and pretending that most Americans don't get married in
Christian rooted ceremonies.

[slapass]

Originally Posted by k0nr4d

It doesn't make her a bad person but 20 guy gangbang puts her pretty fucking far out of wife territory. There are further issues then that she just DID IT. She wasn't the victim, she wanted it. She liked it. Fetishes like that don't go away. I don't blame buddy for being worried - every time he kisses her she may have just blown 30 guys somewhere.

This is a really odd statement. I have done stuff that was fun to do that I did not seek out later. This doesn't mean she will cheat, do it again or any of the above. It was 20 years ago and from the way her friends feel a need to share, she was not doing it every weekend since.

[blackmonsters]

Originally Posted by bhutocracy

What does Christianity have to do with marriage at all? Marriage was around before the bible and even in the bible marriage included one dude and a thousand wives he got to fuck. Christianity has to drink a tall glass of STFU if it is even in the same room as a conversation about marriage.

This is what it has to do with this thread:

http://www.marriageequality.org/religious-vs-civil

Unlike some religious definitions, civil definitions of marriage do not usually mention childbearing, sexual relations, living arrangements, or religious beliefs/observances.

What I said is equal to this :

"Change your values and there is no problem".
"Civil marriage does not have that "value problem" but Christian marriage does."

I don't give a fuck about religion and should have known that using it in the argument would cause some shit.

But thanks for the rant against something someone else cares about.

[scuba steve]

would people in this thread saying to get over it marry an ex pornstar? you see all the stuff they've done, out there forever, etc.

or does it matter that it was behind closed doors?

[Sly]

Originally Posted by slapass

It was 20 years ago and from the way her friends feel a need to share, she was not doing it every weekend since.

Then why share it?

I don't understand why this is just coming out now when they are engaged. Friends of which party are telling the story? Why did they wait until now? Are they trying to warn the guy that she may have other issues in her life that she needs to deal with? Or are they trying to out her because they have some old grudge?

There seems to be something else going on here.

[pimpmaster9000]

so she fucked 20+ guys whats the big deal?...my god some of you sound like you are not in adult at all

[arock10]

Originally Posted by Rob

A buddy just proposed to the sweetest, most kind woman in the world. She's a sweetheart. This morning he found out that she let an entire fraternity run a train on her while she was in college. About 20-25 dudes, every hole, bukkake shit - I mean you name it, it was done to her. They were even sticking inanimate objects into her as well. Some freaky shit! There is suppose to be a video floating around out there as well. But that could be bullshit. VHS would have degraded pretty bad in 20+ years.

I told him to get over it, it was 20+ years ago. But he can't, and the more I think about it, I'm not sure I blame him. She volunteered and willingly participated to get fucked by 25 dudes. A bitch can't be right in the mind wanting something like that (if she's not getting paid to do it). This wasn't a drunken frosh being taken advantage of. This was a girl on a mission to get fucked by every dude in that frat house, at the same time, and accomplished her mission.

How would you feel about that? Call off the engagement? Forgive her? Talk about being in a fucked up position (for him, not her, she apparently enjoyed it tremendously). Imagine fucking your girl and seeing Jody Foster's face from "The Accused" and hearing, "One, two, three, four, poke that pussy 'til it's sore!", over and over and over...

clearly he has to get gangbanged by 25 girls to make it even

[mineistaken]

Originally Posted by crucifissio

so she fucked 20+ guys whats the big deal?...my god some of you sound like you are not in adult at all

How is that related? If you are in adult you also should have your wife do pornstarish things to other men?

[Pad]

Originally Posted by fitzmulti

Seriously, TWENTY PLUS years ago, and he likes/loves her enough to marry her?

Almost sounds like he's looking for an excuse...

uh

either that or he isn't comfortable with the concept of his future wife having been gangbanged by 20+ dudes

[BareBacked]

Originally Posted by Rob

A buddy just proposed to the sweetest, most kind woman in the world. She's a sweetheart. This morning he found out that she let an entire fraternity run a train on her while she was in college. About 20-25 dudes, every hole, bukkake shit - I mean you name it, it was done to her. They were even sticking inanimate objects into her as well. Some freaky shit! There is suppose to be a video floating around out there as well. But that could be bullshit. VHS would have degraded pretty bad in 20+ years.

I told him to get over it, it was 20+ years ago. But he can't, and the more I think about it, I'm not sure I blame him. She volunteered and willingly participated to get fucked by 25 dudes. A bitch can't be right in the mind wanting something like that (if she's not getting paid to do it). This wasn't a drunken frosh being taken advantage of. This was a girl on a mission to get fucked by every dude in that frat house, at the same time, and accomplished her mission.

How would you feel about that? Call off the engagement? Forgive her? Talk about being in a fucked up position (for him, not her, she apparently enjoyed it tremendously). Imagine fucking your girl and seeing Jody Foster's face from "The Accused" and hearing, "One, two, three, four, poke that pussy 'til it's sore!", over and over and over...

she sounds nice

[2MuchMark]

It's his loss if he lets her go. Being sexually adventurous is normal and healthy. So what if she banged 20 guys years ago. If he loves her and she loves him, get married.

[Roald]

Originally Posted by arock10

clearly he has to get gangbanged by 25 girls to make it even

Exactly my thoughts



case closed

[Naughty]

Originally Posted by KlenTelaris

Anyway,a true love shouldn't not have any boundaries.

yeah, double negative....

[Rob]

Originally Posted by CDSmith

Wow, someone young and stupid did something wild and stupid 20 years ago. How are we not hauling her out to the cornfield and burning her at the stake?

No one is hauling her out to the cornfield and burning her as if she were some evil witch. This is between him and her, no one else.

Newsflash people -- some people actually change over the course of two decades.

I agree 100%. That's why I prefaced my original post with how sweet of a girl she was and such a sweetheart. I'm sure she's changed in 20 years, and she's probably embarrassed by what happened 20 years ago. But that's not the point here. She could be Suzy Homemaker super mom, wonderful wife, great lover, etc, etc. But the point here is can HE get over it? I think she's a great person. But once again, can he move on? Can you find a way to not bring it up if they get into an argument? Can he not stay up at nights wondering about the details of what happened to the woman next to him 20 years ago? That's the ultimate question and it has nothing to do with her current character.

[arock10]

btw Rob is your "friend" you?

[L-Pink]

Originally Posted by arock10

btw Rob is your "friend" you?

Yea, is this the same "friend" who wanted to know why it burned when he pissed?


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[billywatson]

The hypocritical viewpoints posted in this thread make me embarrassed to be a dude. Every single dude who's condemned this girl would have been part of that GB 20 years ago in some way, shape, or form -- whether you stuck something in her, or stuck her dick in one of her holes, or laughed and high-fived as it went down, or shot the VHS footage.

I wish I could tell her to avoid this dude who's considering backing out of the engagement. Like the plague.

[Jel]

Originally Posted by scuba steve

would people in this thread saying to get over it marry an ex pornstar? you see all the stuff they've done, out there forever, etc.

or does it matter that it was behind closed doors?

If I loved her, sure, why wouldn't I? I'm stunned that not only in 2014, but on a porn board of all places, people are quick to judge a person's character based on:

1. what they did 20 years ago
2. what a single male/female did previously, sexually, where it concerned consenting adults only

whatever ANY person did in the past, ALL those things made them the person right here, right now - good/bad/crazy/etc, it shaped the person you loved 5 seconds before you found out about something they did before they ever met you.

It's funny this 'level' stuff too... sure sucking off every guy is ok, but not shock horror *this!!* - there's millions of people who would be horrified if they find out their wife fucked 10 guys in college, and how most people find that a ridiculous reaction, myself and whoever else in this thread who see it as past experiences see some of the responses in this thread equally ridiculous.

How is it different for a girl to fuck 25 guys in a night/weekend, than it is for a guy to fuck 25 girls in a night/weekend? There is none, except the laughable notion that a woman 'shouldn't' do those things, based on some controlling males however many years back who decided 'this is how women should behave'. What a crock of shit

[Jel]

Originally Posted by billywatson

The hypocritical viewpoints posted in this thread make me embarrassed to be a dude. Every single dude who's condemned this girl would have been part of that GB 20 years ago in some way, shape, or form -- whether you stuck something in her, or stuck her dick in one of her holes, or laughed and high-fived as it went down, or shot the VHS footage.

I wish I could tell her to avoid this dude who's considering backing out of the engagement. Like the plague.

[Robatolla]

i can understand the "it was a long time ago" thing and maybe the right thing to do would be say fuck it and marry her anyways. I personally couldn't handle that information about my wife/girl though i may try it would probably eat me alive no matter how long ago.

[Wilbo]

I think we need to see the video before any judgement can be passed.........

[Rob]

Originally Posted by billywatson

The hypocritical viewpoints posted in this thread make me embarrassed to be a dude. Every single dude who's condemned this girl would have been part of that GB 20 years ago in some way, shape, or form -- whether you stuck something in her, or stuck her dick in one of her holes, or laughed and high-fived as it went down, or shot the VHS footage.

Being an active "participant" in a gang bang vs. the one being banged is like comparing anal experimentation by sticking your pinky finger into your asshole vs. letting a horse butt fuck you and cumming inside you. Or better yet, you finishing the horse off by giving it head and then swallowing, while his buddies trot over to finger cuff or double stuff you.

Yes, I am VERY AWARE this is a double standard! My girl gets turned on when I tell her about me with multiple girls at once, it turns her on. To her it makes me look like a stud, like one woman can't handle me -- in reality, I'm not that great. She wants to hear every minute detail, as if I were Hannibal retelling stories of his Carthaginian conquests. BUT..she's also had threesomes, and I don't want to hear a single detail. I know the guy involved was her ex-husband, but that's all the information my brain can process. That's enough information for me, thank you.

Guys are just wired different than women. Is that a double standard? I sure as hell don't have an answer.

[BlackCrayon]

Originally Posted by Rob

Being an active "participant" in a gang bang vs. the one being banged is like comparing anal experimentation by sticking your pinky finger into your asshole vs. letting a horse butt fuck you and cumming inside you. Or better yet, you finishing the horse off by giving it head and then swallowing, while his buddies trot over to finger cuff or double stuff you.

Yes, I am VERY AWARE this is a double standard! My girl gets turned on when I tell her about me with multiple girls at once, it turns her on. To her it makes me look like a stud, like one woman can't handle me -- in reality, I'm not that great. She wants to hear every minute detail, as if I were Hannibal retelling stories of his Carthaginian conquests. BUT..she's also had threesomes, and I don't want to hear a single detail. I know the guy involved was her ex-husband, but that's all the information my brain can process. That's enough information for me, thank you.

Guys are just wired different than women. Is that a double standard? I sure as hell don't have an answer.

i'd say you are very insecure about yourself. also it is not typical for a woman to want to hear about her husbands/boyfriends sexual exploits. women are typically way more jealous than guys.

i'd also go as far to say being a participant in a gangbang with this many guys is closer to being gay and not something i'd want people to know than the girl who wants to get fucked by a ton of guys. not that theres anything wrong with that but the amount of time these 25 or so guys spent naked wanking off around each other would definitely exceed any amount of time they spent fucking her.

[_Richard_]

so now the question.. how has this come up AFTER they decide to get married?

[VikingMan]

Originally Posted by _Richard_

so now the question.. how has this come up AFTER they decide to get married?

I think that some of her facebook "freinds" outed her after she changed her status to engaged.

[k0nr4d]

Originally Posted by Rob

Guys are just wired different than women. Is that a double standard? I sure as hell don't have an answer.

It's by all means a double-standard, but fuck it. I too would have that double standard. The only detail I should ever hear from my girl about sex with her ex's is about my dick being bigger.

[1215]

how did he find out??

[seeandsee]

Where the fuck is that video!?

[DerekMister33]

I would DEFINITELY call off the engagement.

[Sid70]

No way, it is NOT acceptable.

[blackmonsters]

Originally Posted by billywatson

The hypocritical viewpoints posted in this thread make me embarrassed to be a dude. Every single dude who's condemned this girl would have been part of that GB 20 years ago in some way, shape, or form -- whether you stuck something in her, or stuck her dick in one of her holes, or laughed and high-fived as it went down, or shot the VHS footage.

I wish I could tell her to avoid this dude who's considering backing out of the engagement. Like the plague.

When I was in college I saw many guys walk away from a gangbang at a drunken party.
They wouldn't be hypocrites; they would just know the reality of events that you never attended.

[ErectMedia]

Option 1 ya say fuck it long time ago and at least ya know you can stick a cucumber up her ass with no complaints.

Option 2 if you're gonna keep bringing it up or it will always bother ya then never gonna work as you'll keep mentioning shit and then she will get sick of it and jet out on ya.

Originally Posted by Rob

How would you feel about that? Call off the engagement? Forgive her?

Nothing to forgive as it happened before his ass not during so just a question of can he personally deal with it which I'm gonna guess is a no.